Tuesday 31 January 2012

MUM TELL ABOUT FRIEND

My mother used to ask me what is the most important part of the body. Through the years I would take a 
 guess at what I thought was the correct answer. 

When I was younger, I thought sound was very important 
 to us as humans, so I said, "My ears, Mommy."

She said, "No. Many people are deaf. But you keep thinking about it and I will ask you again soon."

Several years passed before she asked me again. Since making my first attempt, I had contemplated the 
 correct answer. So this time I told her, "Mommy, sight is very important to everybody, so it must be our eyes."

She looked at me and told me, "You are learning fast, but the answer is not correct because there are many people who are blind."

Stumped again, I continued my quest for knowledge and over the years, Mother asked me a couple more times and always her answer was, "No. But you are getting smarter every year, my child."

Then last year, my grandpa died. Everybody was hurt. Everybody was crying. Even my father cried. I remember that especially because it was only the second time I saw him cry.

My Mom looked at me when it was our turn to say our final goodbye to Grandpa. She asked me, "Do you know the most important body part yet, my dear?"

 I was shocked when she asked me this now. I always thought this was a game between her and me. She saw the confusion on my face and told me, "This question is very important. 



It shows that you have really lived in our life. For every body part you gave me in the past, I have told you were wrong and I have given you an example why.

But today is the day you need to learn this important lesson."
She looked down at me as only a mother can. I saw her eyes well up with tears. She said, "My dear, the most important body part is your shoulder."

I asked, "Is it because it holds up my head?"

She replied, "No, it is because it can hold the head of a friend or a loved one when they cry. Everybody needs a shoulder to cry on sometime in life, my dear.

I only hope that you have enough love and friends that you will always have a shoulder to cry on when you need it." 


:'(

10 RULES TO BEING TRUE FRIENDS


**A good friend will visit you in hospital and say “Get well soon ” and leave. But a true friend sits near you and says “The nurse is hot, take your time to get well.”.**
1-Honesty
A true friend is always honest no matter what.
It is your duty to tell the truth, even when you know that the truth may hurt and possibly even cost you your friendship (which it won’t if you follow the other 9 rules below).
Never take something without permission, even if you know that your friend will be okay with it. Just ask for permission first.


2-Reliability
A true friend is someone you can rely on.
When you make a promise you will always honor it, and when you know you won’t be able to stick to your promise it’s best to be honest and tell your friend that you can’t keep to the promise.
If you say that you’ll do something or be somewhere at a certain date and time, then be there no matter what.

3-Respect
A true friend respects time, property and beliefs.
  • Time is respected by not wasting it. Be punctual for appointments and let your friend know if you’ll be late or can’t make it at all.
  • Property is respected by not damaging it. Treat other people’s belongings with care and love.
  • Beliefs are respected by not judging. If you know that your friend has certain beliefs and morals, respect them, even if you don’t agree with them.
4- Bros Before Hoes
Please excuse the expression but I found it very fitting.
Choosing bros before hoes means that you don’t choose a girl or a boy over your friend. Don’t cancel your plans with your friend or let your friend down just because you want to be with someone you’re interested in.
If the guy or girl you are interested in is really special to you, you can always ask your friend first and they’ll likely understand. But a true friend doesn’t drop you to be with someone else.

5-Selfless
A true friend will sacrifice their own comfort or happiness and put you first.
They are selfless and would not do something for financial or material gain if they knew that it would have a negative effect on your life.

6-Loyalty
A true friend you will stand up for you when you need it. Also when you don’t ask them to.
A true friend is not for sale and will never do anything that will compromise your success or happiness.

7-Patience
A true friend is patient with you. They are understanding when things need time to change or get better and won’t judge you even when you make the same mistake over and over. As long as you’re making the effort to get better.



8- Laugh Together Cry Together
A true friend is not a fair-weather friend. They are there for  you in good times and in bad times. A true friend also shares their own success with you when they achieve it.

9-Constructive Criticism
A true friend is not scared to tell you what you’re doing wrong . They’re not scared to seriously intervene if they see that something is seriously bad for you or if you’re going down the wrong path.But they always support their criticism with advice that can help you improve.
Don’t just say “You’re going to go bankrupt with your new business plan”. Tell them why you think their new business plan will fail. E.g. “You’re putting all your money into something that is not real, or there is an expiry date on the products you’re buying and I don’t think you’ll be able to sell even 10% of what you’re buying”.

10- Forgiveness
A true friend has the ability to forgive. Everyone is human and we all make mistakes at times. We may even break one or more of these golden rules of being a true friend, but if you realize that you messed up and you really show that you’re sorry and try to make things right, a true friend will be able to forgive you. (Just don’t mess up in the same way again because there is a limit to forgiveness).

Meaningfullllllll :)

            

             DEFINING  FRIENDSHIP TO ME

 

 

And after all had been created and was neatly arranged,
She looked down upon the people of the earth and said;
"I cannot be there to comfort them in their sorrow,
I can't be there to wrap my arms around them.
I am here and yes, they will feel my presence but they'll need something more."
She paused for a moment and then said:
"I will create for them someone they can see and touch,
I will make this person understanding and compassionate, thoughtful and caring.
She won't need to be overly intelligent, just sensitive to others needs.
She will have a warm heart and gentle hands and all the time in the world, or so it will seem to those she comforts

.
Time will mean very little to her it will never be too late nor too early.
She will be a very blessed individual and many will love her and come to her door often.
She will have to be something very special to take my place because I love my children very much.
I want them to have only the best for they will have many trials and will need a strong shoulder."
And so he created this individual after much thought and time.
Then he said, "I must give her a name," he paused for a moment more and then said:
"One of my greatest creations, I shall call her a MY BESTFRIEND."


LETTER FOR MY BESTFRIEND :)

                                                         
I really believe that if you have a great best friend you can accomplish anything. :) My best friends believes in me and all my dreams and I love her so much for giving me the support I needed.

This is a letter to my best friend (NABILAH HUDA )



 
Ilah,
I just wanted to write you and tell you that I am so glad that you and I became friends. I haven’t ever had a friend that I could tell ANYTHING and not be judged about it. You are my sister, maybe not by blood but definitely by destiny. You love me for me, and I love you for you.
You are truly the best friend I have ever had.
I just don’t feel that I’ve thanked you enough for all that you do for me, and all the support you’ve given me, whether it’s telling me how good of I am or telling me how cute the things I make are.
I don’t know what I would do without you, TRULY.
You, Fazian,Sheila and others are like family to me, and I truly want to keep it like that..
Fazian love you so much too. I don’t want to get all personal and make you cry (like I always do when I write you) but I just felt like you are a total inspiration in my life and I wanted to let you know so.
Thanks for all the great memories, long talks, and laughs. Thanks for being there through my ups and downs. Thanks for being the best friend a girl could have. Thanks for being true, and thanks for being YOU.
I love you so much, thanks for being my bestie…

Friday 27 January 2012




Berdasarkan 25 Tahun Kajian Dr Fadzillah Kamsah
 



JANUARI

1. Bercita-cita tinggi
2. Orangnya serius
3. Suka mendidik dan dididik
4. Sangat mudah melihat kelemahan orang dan suka mengkritik
5. Rajin dan setiap yang dibuat nampak keuntungan
6. Suka smart, kemas dan teratur
7. Bersifat sensitif
8. Berfikiran mendalam
9. Pandai mengambil hati orang lain
10. Pendiam kecuali telah dirangsang
11. Agak pemalu
12. Daya tumpuan yang sangat tinggi
13. Mudah mendisiplinkan diri sendiri
14. Badannya sihat tetapi mudah diserang selsema
15. Bersikap romantik tetapi tidak pandai mempamirkannya
16. Cukup sayang pada kanak-kanak
17. Suka duduk rumah
18. Setia pada segala-galanya
19. Perlu belajar kemahiran sosial
20. Cukup cemburu yang sangat tinggi



FEBRUARI

1. Berfikiran abstrak
2. Sukakan benda yang reality dan abstrak
3. Inteligent, bijak dan genius
4. Berpesonality yang mudah berubah
5. Mudah menawan orang lain
6. Agak pendiam.
7. Pemalu dan rendah diri
8. Jujur dan setia pada segalanya
9. Keras hati untuk mencapai matlamat
10. Tidak suka dikongkong
11. Mudah memberontak apabila dikongkong
12. Suka kegiatan yg lasak
13. Emosinya mudah terluka dan sgt sensitif
14. Mudah mempamirkan marahnya
15. Tidak suka benda yg remeh-temeh
16. Suka berkawan tapi kurang mempamerkannya
17. Sangat berani dan suka memberontak
18. Bercita-cita tinggi dan suke berangan-angan dan ada harapan utk merealisasikan impiannya
19. Pemerhatian yg tajam
20. Suka hiburan dan sukan
21. Suka benda yg bersifat seni
22. Sangat romantik pada dalaman tetapi tidak pada luaran
23. Berkecenderungan pd benda yg tahyul
24. Amat mudah dan boleh menjadi terlalu boros
25. Belajar untuk mempamirkan emosi


MAC
1. Berpesonaliti yg menarik dan menawan
2. Mudah didampingi
3. Sgt pemalu dan pemendam rasa
4. Sgt baik secara semulajadi, jujur pemurah dan mudah simpati
5. Sgt sensitif pd perkataan yg dituturkan dan alam persekitaran
6. Suka pada kedamaian
7. Sgt peka kepada orang lain
8. Sesuai dgn kerjaya yg memberi khidmat kepada org lain
9. Tidak cepat marah dan sangat amanah
10. Tahu balas budi dan tahu kenang budi
11. Pemerhatian dan penilaian yg sangat tajam
12. Kecenderungan utk berdendam jika tidak dikawal
13. Suka berangan-angan
14. Suka melancong
15. Sgt manja dan suka diberi perhatian yg sangat tinggi
16. Kelam kabut dalam memilih pasangan
17. Suka dgn hiasan rumahtangga
18. Punya bakat seni dalam bidang muzik
19. Kecenderungan kepada benda yang istimewa dan baik jgn terlalu moody.



 APRIL
1. Sgt aktif dan dinamik
2. Cepat bertindak buat keputusan tetapi cepat  menyesal
3. Sgt menarik dan pandai manjakan diri
4. Punya daya mental yg sangat kuat
5. Suka diberi perhatian
6. Sgt diplomatik (pandai memujuk ).
7. Berkawan dan pandai menyelesaikan masalah org
8. Sgt berani dan tiada perasaan takut
9. Suka adventure, pengasih, penyayang, sopan santun dan pemurah
10. Emosi cepat terusik
11. Try control the emotion
12. Kecenderungan bersifat dendam
13. Agresif, kelam kabut utk membuat keputusan
14. Kuat daya ingatan
15. Gerak hati yg sangat kuat
16. Pandai mendorong diri sendiri dan memotivasikan org lain
17. Berpenyakit disekitar kepala dan dada
18. Sgt cemburu dan terlalu cemburu


MEI
1. Kekerasan hati & degil
2. Kuat semangat & bermotivasi tinggi
3. Pemikiran yg tajam
4. Mudah marah apabila tidak dikawal
5. Pandai menarik hati org lain & menarik perhatian
6. Perasaan yg amat mendalam
7. Cantik dr segi mental & fizikal
8. Tidak perlu dimotivasikan
9. Tetap pendirian tetapi mudah dipengaruhi oleh org lain
10. Mudah dipujuk
11. Bersikap sistematik (otak kiri)
12. Suka berangan
13. Kuat daya firasat memahami apa yg terlintas di hati org lain tanpa diberitahu
14. Bahagian telinga & leher mudah diserang penyakit
15. Daya khayalan yg tinggi
16. Permikiran yg tajam
17. Pandai berdebat
18. Fizikal yg baik
19. Kelemahan sistem pernafasan
20. Suka sastera, seni & muzik serta melancong
21. Tidak berapa suka duduk dirumah
22. Tidak boleh duduk diam
23. Tidak punya ramai anak
24. Rajin dan bersemangat tinggi
25. Agak boros 

JUN
 1. Berfikiran jauh & berwawasan
2. Mudah ditawan krn sikap baik
3. Bersikap terus-terang
4. Berperangai yg lemah lembut
5. Mudah berubah sikap,perangai, idea & mood
6. Idea yg terlalu banyak dikepala
7. Bersikap sensitif
8. Otaknya aktif (sentiasa berfikir)
9. Sukar melakukan sesuatu dgn segera
10. Bersikap suka menangguh-nangguh
11. Bersikap terlalu memilih & mahukan yg terbaik
12. Cepat marah &cepat sejuk
13. Berani dan tiada perasaan takut
14. Suka bercakap & berdebat
15. Pandai menawan dan memukau
16. Suka buat lawak & bergurau
17. Otaknya cerdas berangan-angan
18. Mudah berkawan & pandai berkawan
19. Org yg sangat tertib dan tulus
20. Pandai mempamerkan sikap
21. Mudah kecil hati
22. Mudah kena selsema
23. Suka berkemas dan bergaya
24. Cepat rasa bosan
25. Sikap terlalu memilih & cerewet
26. Kurang mempamerkan perasaan
27. Lambat nak sembuh apabila terluka hati
28. Suka kepada barang yang berjenama
29. Mudah menjadi eksekutif
30. Kedegilan yg tidak terkawal
31. Sesiapa yg memuji saya adalah musuh saya tetapi siapa menegur saya adalah kawan saya.




JULAI
1. Sangat seronok didamping
2. Banyak berahsia dan sukar dimengerti terutamanya lelaki
3. Agak pendiam kecuali diransang
4. Ada harga dan maruah diri
5. Tak suka menyusahkan orang lain tapi tidak marah apabila disusahkan
6. Mudah dipujuk dan bercakap lurus
7. Sangat menjaga hati orang lain
8. Sangat peramah
9. Emosi sangat mendalam tapi mudah terluka hatinya
10. Berjiwa sentimental
11. Jarang berdendam
12. Mudah memaafkan tapi sukar melupakan
13. Tidak suka benda remeh-temeh
14. Membimbing cara fizikal dan mental
15. Sgt peka, caring dan mengasihi serta penyayang
16. Layanan yg serupa dgn semua orang
17. Tinggi daya simpati
18. Pemerhatian yg tajam
19. Suka menilai org lain dgn pemerhatian
20. Mudah dan rajin belajar
21. Suka muhasabah diri
22. Suka megenangkan peristiwa atau kawan lama
23. Suka mendiamkan diri
24. Suka duduk dirumah
25. Suka tunggu kawan tapi tak cari kawan
26. Tak agresif kecuali terpaksa
27. Lemah dari segi kesihatan perut
28. Mudah gemuk kalau tak kawal diet
29. Minta disayangi
30. Mudah terluka hati tapi lambat pulih
31. Terlalu mengambil berat
32. Rajin dalam membuat kerja




OGOS
1. Suka berlawak
2. Mudah tertawan kepadanya
3. Sopan santun dan caring terhadap org lain
4. Berani dan tidak tahu takut
5. Orangnya agak tegas & bersikap kepimpinan
6. Pandai pujuk org lain
7. Terlalu pemurah & bersikap ego
8. Nilai harga diri yg sangat tinggi
9. Dahagakan pujian
10. Semangat juang yg luar biasa
11. Cepat marah & mudah mengamuk
12. Mudah marah apabila cakapnya dilawan
13. Sangat cemburu
14. Daya pemerhatian yg tajam & teliti
15. Cepat berfikir
16. Fikiran yg berdikari
17. Suka memimpin & dipimpin
18. Sifat suka berangan
19. Berbakat dlm seni lukis,hiburan & silat
20. Sangat sensitif tapi tidak mudah merajuk
21. Cepat apabila ditimpa penyakit
22. Belajar utk relax
23. Sikap kelam kabut
24. Romantik, pengasih, penyayang
25. Suka mencari kawan




SEPTEMBER
1. Sangat bersopan santun & bertolak ansur
2. Sangat cermat,teliti & teratur
3. Suka menegur kesilapan org lain & mengkritik
4. Pendiam tapi pandai bercakap
5. Sikap sangat cool, sangat baik & mudah simpati
6. Sangat perihatin & terperinci,amanah,setia & jujur
7. Kerja yg dilakukansangat sempurna
8. Sangat sensitif yg tidak diketahui
9. Org yg banyak berfikir
10. Daya pentaakulan yg baik
11. Otak bijak & mudah belajar
12. Suka mencari maklumat
13. Kawal diri dari terlalu mengkritik
14. Pandai mendorong diri sendiri
15. Mudah memahami org lain (daya firasat yg tinggi) krn banyak simpan rahsia
16. Suka sukan, hiburan & melancong
17. Kurang menunjukkan perasaannya
18. Terluka hatinya sangat lama disimpan

19. Terlalu memilih pasangan
20. Sukakan benda yg luas
21. Bersistematik





OKTOBER
1. Suka sembang
2. Suka org yg sayang padanya
3. Suka ambil jln tengah
4. Sangat menawan & sopan santun
5. Kecantikan luar & dalam
6. Tidak pandai berbohong & berpura-pura
7. Mudah rasa simpati,baik pentingkan kawan
8. Sentiasa berkawan
9. Hatinya mudah terusik tetapi merajuknya tak lama
10. Cepat marah
11. Macam pentingkan diri sendiri
12. Tidak menolong org kecuali diminta
13. Suka melihat dari perspektifnya sendiri
14. Tidak suka terima pandangan org lain
15. Emosi yg mudah terusik
16. Suka berangan & pandai bercakap
17. Emosi yg kelam kabut
18. Daya firasat yg sangat kuat (terutamanya perempuan)
19. Suka melancong, bidang sastera & seni
20. Pengasih ,penyayang & lemah lembut
21. Romantik dlm percintaan
22. Mudah terusik hati & cemburu
23. Ambil berat tentang org lain
24. Suka kegiatan luar
25. Org yg adil
26. Boros & mudah dipengaruhi persekitaran
27. Mudah patah semangat




NOVEMBER
1. Banyak idea dalam perkara
2. Sukar utk dimengertikan atau difahami sikapnya
3. Berfikiran kehadapan
4. Berfikiran unik dan bijak
5. Penuh dgn idea-idea baru yg luarbiasa
6. Pemikiran yg tajam
7. Daya firasat yg sgt halus dan tinggi
8. Bagus utk jadi doktor
9. Cermat dan teliti
10. Personality dinamik
11. Sifat yg berahsia, pandai mencungkil dan mencari rahsia
12. Banyak berfikir, kurang bercakap tetapi mesra
13. Berani, pemurah setia dan byk kesabaran
14. Terlalu degil dan keras hati
15. Apabila hendak, diusahakan sehingga berjaya
16. Tak suka marah kecuali digugat
17. Mudah ambil berat terhadap orang lain
18. Pandai muhasabah diri
19. Cara berfikir lain dari org lain
20. Otak yg sangat tajam
21. Pandai mendorong diri sendiri
22. Tidak hargai pujian
23. Kekuatan semangat dan daya juang yg sgt tinggi
24. Apabila hendak sesuatu cuba sampai berjaya
25. Badan yg tough
26. Kasih sayang dan emosi yang sangat mendalam
27. Romantik
28. Tidak pasti dgn hubungan kasih sayang
29. Suka duduk dirumah
30. Sangat rajin dan berkemampuan tinggi
31. Amanah, jujur setia dan pandai berahsia
32. Tidak berapa berjaya dalam mengawal emosi
33. Bercita-cita tinggi
34. Perangai tidak dapat diramal dan mudah berubah-ubah




DISEMBER
1. Sangat setia dan pemurah
2. Bersifat patriotik
3. Sangat aktif dalam permainan dan pergaulan
4. Sikap kurang sabar dan tergesa-gesa
5. Bercita-cita tinggi
6. Suka menjadi orang yang berpengaruh dlm organisasi
7. Seronok didampingi
8. Suka bercampur dgn org
9. Suka dipuji, diberi perhatian dan suka dibelai
10. Sangat jujur amanah dan bertolak ansur
11. Tidak pandai berpura-pura
12. Cepat marah
13. Perangai yg berubah-ubah
14. Tidak ego walaupun harga diri yang sangat tinggi
15. Benci pada kongkongan
16. Suka berlawak
17. Pandai buat lawak dan berfikiran dgn logik 






** Tujuan saya meletak post ni, sebabnya,, apa yg di senaraikan dalam ruang ni banyak menceritakan sifat kami sekumpulan.. hingga kami tertawa membaca sikap kami sendiri, sampai yang tidak mengaku akan kenyataan yang sebenar.. Tidak puas berbalah mulut, salah seorang dari kumpulan kami mencetak informasi ini, dan meletakkan nya di dinding kelas kami pada zaman persekolahan dulu.. eeee... rindu nya nak balik zaman sekolah .. :(





Monday 16 January 2012

10 Kunci Persahabatan Yg Baik


1) Pilih orang yang mempunyai minat yang sama seperti anda supaya anda mempunyai persamaan, tetapi jangan mengetepikan orang yang langsung tidak mempunyai persamaan dengan anda, bersikap terbuka baik untuk anda.


2) Ingatlah pada satu pedoman penting iaitu berlaku baik terhadap orang lain sebagaimana anda suka diperlakukan. Sekiranya anda menghormati orang lain,orang lain akan menghormati anda juga.


3) Sedarlah bahawa tiada siapa yang sempurna, setiap orang mempunyai sifat-sifat aneh dan kecacatan, dan menerima kecacatan antara satu sama lain adalah kunci persahabatan yang baik.


4) Hargai pendapat satu sama lain.


5) Sedarlah bahawa kawan yang rapat sekalipun tidak dapat bersama 24 jam.Bina minat-minat yang lain dan jangan cemburu apabila kawan anda mempunyai minat-minat yang lain juga.


6) Komunikasi sangat penting, kawan anda tidak boleh membaca fikiran anda.Sekiranya ada sesuatu yang menjejaskan persahabatan anda, beritahulah.

 7) Jangan biarkan faktor luaran seperti tekanan (stress) menjejaskan persahabatan anda. Kawan yang baik akan membenarkan anda melepaskan perasaan kepada mereka, tetapi jangan hanya mempergunakan mereka untuk melepaskan perasaan ... dan sebagai balasan anda sepatutnya bersedia untuk mendengar luahan perasaan mereka pula.


8) Belajar daripada satu sama lain.


9) Jangan mengata di belakang kawan anda.


10) Pilih kata-kata anda dengan bijaksana kerana anda tidak boleh menariknya kembali.